Dating after divorce over 40
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If you are a single woman over 40, you have a love history.
I started asking around, asking women in second-time-around relationships what made them better, or at least smarter. If you were passive or felt pushed around in your first marriage, you can start off, right from the beginning, in a new role.
It took: I realized I was the leader of my little family, and I had to take the role as the rock solid one, the go-to person, and the one my little kids could depend on 100% all the time. It gives my life purpose and meaning and joy that I can’t even begin to explain.
So, with all that said, that is the first thing on my list of 4 advantages to starting over at 40.
You just nibbled through an entire bar of dark chocolate. You are "out there" again, and the dating world has changed a lot since the eighties. Put down the chocolate; it really isn't so bad out there.
The last time you had a first date, you wore jackets with shoulder pads and permed your hair.
Maybe you’re divorced and frustrated with dating or haven’t ventured back out to the dating pool.
You could be a widow and unsure of ever finding another man like your husband.
You can make the plans, get your voice heard, assert whatever it is you couldn't in your first marriage.
Women who married in their 20s, 30s, 40s, have lots of new priorities, wants, skills, passions, goals and traits. If you and your first partner couldn't or didn't grow and change in compatible ways, finding someone new can be liberating from all those parts of yourself you have moved away from, grown out of or simply chose to release.
I know it can be brutal "out there" in post-divorce dating land. And we have all spent a lot of time thinking, talking and writing about the considerable downsides.
But somebody said something to me recently that stuck: It's not scientific, not official, not guaranteed and, in fact, there are statistics that make a lie out of it.
A new mindset Another theme that came up in almost every case was exhaustion, hopelessness and despair in first marriages that make change feel impossible.